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BN1 looks at how you can still be together, even when apart, with some tips for a healthy long-distance relationship

Top tips for a healthy long-distance relationship

In the digital age it’s becoming easier, and more common, to maintain a long-distance relationship. Staying in touch is cheaper than ever, and you’re no longer waiting for the postman to appear or hoping the phone won’t ring while you’re out.

Technology has offered many possibilities in the world of love, but you’ll still need to put some work in, if your relationship is going to stay healthy, balanced and long-lasting. We’ve assembled a range of suggestions to help you keep that long-distance love affair fresh and fun.

ESTABLISH WHERE YOU’RE BOTH GOING

Obviously, this isn’t a ‘flash in the pan’. You’ve clearly established an emotional connection. But where do you see yourself in two years? Try to be honest with yourself and each other and establish common goals. Are you both happy with the relationship, or does only one of you hope to one day find a place together? There needs to be a consensus about what’s happening in the future, even it is just a vague aspiration.


BN1 looks at how you can still be together, even when apart, with some tips for a healthy long-distance relationship

LESS CAN BE MORE

Try to limit communication, so your time ‘together’ is more precious. Calling three times a day might be good for keeping updated on what each of you had for lunch, but it’s a wasteful use of words. Have a think about you’re going to talk about as well. What has inspired or excited you today? Don’t just provide a list of your everyday movements at work. Leave that nonsense to those dull couples who live together. Do video-call whenever possible. It’ll make a big difference.


BN1 looks at how you can still be together, even when apart, with some tips for a healthy long-distance relationshipBE CONSIDERATE AROUND SCHEDULES

In the modern world, we’re all starting to keep unique hours. This can be because of shift patterns or even time-zones. Establish when you’re both at your best, and don’t be afraid to experiment with talking at different times. Do consider when you’re going to be most alert and unrushed. Try not to let calls impact your own life too much.


BN1 looks at how you can still be together, even when apart, with some tips for a healthy long-distance relationshipDON’T JUST KEEP IT VIRTUAL

Although technology is great, it can’t (yet!) replicate the tactile nature of a relationship. Exchange quirky gifts or unique mementos which will remind partners of your personality. There’s something intensely powerful about having physical objects from a loved one. Even a tatty old jumper which smells like you can create a sense of your presence – although maybe not your gym socks… And it’s even better if you receive a gift unexpectedly in the post! Everyone loves nice surprises.


BN1 looks at how you can still be together, even when apart, with some tips for a healthy long-distance relationshipFACTOR TIME INTO YOUR IN-PERSON MEETINGS

When you meet up, the temptation might be to go wild. But don’t worry about wasting the hours, this will only add more pressure. Sure, you’re on a city-break together, but do you need to get stressed while rushing around every sight in town? The small moments are precious. What’s important is that you’re experiencing things together. Factor in some down time, – because this is really when the two of you will connect. Do take loads of photos though!


BN1 looks at how you can still be together, even when apart, with some tips for a healthy long-distance relationshipTHERE’S NO REASON WHY YOU CAN’T GET PHYSICAL

You might be at opposite ends of the country, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t have an exciting and healthy sex life. High quality video calls mean you can watch each other get up to mischief as well. You should certainly consider bringing adult toys like dildos into the mix. This will help you build up a level of intimacy together. For the more experienced, there’s also a fantastic range of  huge dildos out there for you to get wild with. Once again, communication is key. Don’t be afraid to talk about your fantasies or reservations. You may be pleasantly surprised.


BN1 looks at how you can still be together, even when apart, with some tips for a healthy long-distance relationshipDON’T FORGET YOURSELF

Do be realistic about what’s happening. You are already compromising with long-distance love, so be careful about what you’re letting pass by. If your common goals aren’t being achieved, do think about how this impacts you. There’s always the danger of isolating yourself and ignoring important personal development. If you’re not living life to its fullest, is this for you? Again, communication and understanding are very important.


BN1 looks at how you can still be together, even when apart, with some tips for a healthy long-distance relationshipDEVELOP TRUST

There’s a big difference between ‘checking in’ and ‘checking up on’. You need to develop trust in this relationship, and in turn earn it for yourself. While infidelity can be harmful, so can ghosting your partner. Try to reach a consensus on expectations. Stick to plans.  You should be made to feel like you’re the most special person in their life, and that needs to be reciprocated.


BN1 looks at how you can still be together, even when apart, with some tips for a healthy long-distance relationshipBELIEVE

Nobody said it was going to be easy. But ultimately, a long-distance relationship can be hugely rewarding. Being apart can make you appreciate each other in numerous ways and facilitate better connections when you’re together. So don’t dwell on the negatives, like how you’ve so little time together and that there’s often nobody there for a hug… The space between you is encouraging you both to learn how to better communicate. And that is the key to happy and long-lasting love.

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